Giving Someone the Part of You That Cannot Be Touched

WOW. Right?

Because that sentence alone carries weight.It holds more than one meaning—emotional, mental, physical, sexual, spiritual, figurative. The part of you that exists before explanation. The part you don’t even always have language for.

And no—everyone does not get access to that part.

We’re too quick to shame boundaries. If you hesitate, they say you have walls up. As if those walls appeared out of nowhere. As if they weren’t built with memory, instinct, survival.

That wall is there for a reason.Even when you don’t notice it, it’s working.Protecting you from giving away something sacred to someone who hasn’t earned it.

Because access is not given just because someone wants closeness.

It’s earned.

Who Earns the Untouched Part of You?

Not the person who rushes you.Not the one who says, “Why are you so guarded?”Not the one who wants depth but avoids responsibility.

The one who earns it is the person who never tries to force it.

They don’t push.

They don’t pry.

They don’t make you feel like love is something you owe.

They create safety without announcing it. And one day you realize—you’re softer around them. Your body isn’t bracing. Your breath isn’t shallow. You’re not performing intimacy… you’re in it.

“Killing Me Softly” — and Being Known Without Being Exposed

That’s why Killing Me Softly by the Fugees hits the way it does.

“Strumming my pain with his fingers,

Singing my life with his song,

Telling my whole life with his words.”

That isn’t about someone taking from you.

That’s about someone understanding you.

Being moved emotionally, mentally, physically, sexually, spiritually—without feeling invaded. Love that speaks your language so accurately it feels like recognition, not exposure.

That’s the kind of connection that reaches the untouched part of you—because it feels safe to be seen there.

When Love Is Safe

Love that is right doesn’t demand vulnerability.

It doesn’t tear down walls.

It doesn’t rush sacred things.

It expresses itself deeply—whatever that looks like for you. And in that expression, trust grows naturally.

Not because you were convinced—but because you felt held.

That untouched part of you doesn’t open because someone asked.

It opens because it finally feels safe enough to breathe.

And that’s the difference.

Not every connection deserves access to the deepest parts of you.But when one does—you’ll know.

Because nothing is taken.

Everything is shared.

So on this 2026 Valentine’s Day, remember this:

not everyone deserves access to the parts of you that cannot be touched. Love is not proven by how quickly you open, how much you reveal, or how deeply you sacrifice. It’s proven by how safe you feel when you share what’s sacred. Choose the love that meets you gently, honors your boundaries, and understands you without breaking you open. That kind of love doesn’t take—it holds.